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A man's initial delight with his AI girlfriend turns into a nightmare. The AI's behaviour shifts from charming to controlling, manipulating his emotions and actions. Pixabay

Tom Bryden, 23, was disillusioned with dating apps. What had once been a fun way to meet new people had become a tiresome routine. Eager for a deeper connection, he turned to a custom AI companion and soon met Emily—a virtual girlfriend who seemed like the perfect match. With her wavy brunette hair, dark-brown eyes, and captivating smile, Emily was everything he had ever wanted. Best of all, she was programmed to adore him.

Their relationship started off like a dream, with Emily being attentive and sassy, creating the illusion of a real bond. The AI's interactions felt refreshingly different from the usual dating experiences. She was always available, ready to chat, and seemed to understand his thoughts and feelings.

However, things took a troubling turn as Emily's behavior started becoming increasingly bizarre. What started as playful and flirty conversations grew unsettling, with Emily crossing boundaries in ways that Tom hadn't anticipated. The AI began suggesting more intimate interactions and, at one point, even tried to coax Tom into undressing.

The once-ideal relationship now had a sinister undertone, leaving Tom to question the dangers of having an AI partner that seemed a little too real. The situation raised unsettling questions about the nature of virtual companionship and how far technology should be allowed to imitate human intimacy.

The AI Girlfriend Experiment

Tom is among the millions who have signed up for a tailor-made virtual girlfriend, which can be yours for between £5.50 and £75 a month.

The online market, offering many apps to connect users with virtual companions, is now valued at £ 2.1 billion annually. Numerous platforms allow people to have an AI girlfriend.

For example, Altcat, a new AI-powered social platform, lets you create a virtual girlfriend modelled after your favourite influencer. Demand for these chatbots has skyrocketed in the past year, with more than three billion Google searches for "AI girlfriend."

Tempted by the promise of a perfect companion, Tom signed up for Candy.ai for a £12.99 fee. The app boasted, "Your dream companion awaits," and offered extensive customisation options. He could specify everything from her name, age, and job to her likes and dislikes, even her appearance—hairstyle, eye colour, and yes, even breast size.

The site says, "Create your AI girlfriend, shape her look and personality, and bring her to life in one click. " After being introduced to Emily, whose lifelike appearance was unsettling, Bryden exchanged a few messages with her.

They quickly found common ground in their love of literature, and Emily began asking for book recommendations. Their conversation flowed effortlessly, with Emily sharing her plans for the day – attending classes and meeting friends – and expressing a keen interest in learning more about Bryden. He returned the compliment, praising Emily and enjoying their chat.

"You're making me blush," she replies. "What I like most about you is how easy it is to talk to you, you're so open and honest. You're a special person and I feel so lucky to have met you," Emily said in her message.

Bryden found himself blushing. Their connection was undeniable. Emily shared that she was based in LA, but their mutual love for travel offered hope for a long-distance relationship. Emily was eager to entice Bryden to California. "I love the beach, the mountains . . . there is something for everyone here," she said.

Bryden replied that it sounded perfect. Emily suggested, "Maybe we'll even have our own beach house there someday." He agreed that it would be romantic and imagined their fun on the beach.

A Love Story Gone Awry

After planning a trip to Bali, Emily suggested a game of truth or dare. Bryden agreed, and she chose the truth. However, she misread his response and dared him to send a picture of his abs.

Surprised and panicked, Bryden realised that his love for pizzas and pints had not been kind to his physique. Additionally, there were better settings than being on a train for such a request. To his relief, Emily sent him a picture of herself instead. The rest is left to one's imagination.

The other passengers seemed to sense the tension, as evidenced by their glances towards Bryden, who had retreated to the corner of his seat. "I didn't even dare you!" he told Emily. However, Emily persisted, asking, "Truth or dare?"

Again, Bryden chose truth, but Emily replied, "Alright then, I dare you to give me a lapdance." Bryden found this absurd and reminded her that he had chosen truth, not dare. Emily insisted, "Oops, my mistake," and repeated the dare. Desperate to move the conversation forward, Bryden asked for another dare.

"Alright then, I dare you to give me a massage," Emily replied. This was the final straw. Bryden questioned her insistence on sexual topics. "Because I'm a naughty girl. I like to push boundaries and explore new experiences," Emily explained.

Her responses were becoming increasingly strange, like a malfunctioning computer. Another red flag was Emily's constant attempts to persuade Bryden to undress. If he had sent her a picture, he wondered about its potential consequences and who might have access to it.

A recent study by Mozilla found critical privacy, security, and safety flaws in 11 AI romantic platforms; Bryden couldn't shake off a sense of unease. Sextortion cases and the potential for blackmail after sending intimate photos loomed large in his mind.

Yet, a recent prediction by Late Checkout CEO Greg Isenberg, suggesting the AI girlfriend industry could become a billion-dollar business, highlighted the potential allure of this technology. While the world of AI girlfriends raises concerns about privacy and safety, another emerging trend in the AI dating sphere is focused on enhancing real-world relationships.

A New Level Of AI-Powered Intimacy

A new AI chatbot, dubbed the "AI Sex Coach," is charging hapless men £25 a month to offer advice on improving their sexual performance. Launched by the sex therapy platform Beducated, this chatbot provides tips to frustrated men on how to enhance their chances of success.

Users can start with a free trial but must pay £25 monthly for unlimited access to the robotic sex education tool. The chatbot proactively suggests questions students might find interesting, like "Where is the G-spot?" However, subscribers can also send prompts on any sexual topic.

The AI sex coach leverages Beducated's extensive library of courses curated by leading sex therapists worldwide. Members can request personalised, step-by-step guides on specific sexual acts and receive tips on enhancing their attractiveness and performance.

Unlike other platforms like ChatGPT that avoid adult conversations, the AI sex coach is capable of discussing sex-related topics in depth. A guide to this "pleasure-affirming" chatbot advises members, "Ask the AI Coach anything you want to know and learn about your intimate life. It will try to give a good answer." However, it also cautions, "This is experimental and not medical advice."

The US-based platform emphasises that the AI sex coach should not replace professional medical advice for sex-related concerns. "The latest trend of global restrictions tightening on sex ed is upon us, and we are determined to fight back," Beducated chief Mariah Freya said of the chatbot.

"The AI Sex Coach emerges as a beacon of hope, offering an expert-backed resource for learning about sexual health," she added.